Have you seen the movie “Mean Girls?” Do you ever wonder what makes a person choose to be mean spirited? <\/p>\n
Usually there is an underlining reasons that may be obvious but sometimes I believe it is simply the choice to be hurtful. <\/p>\n
I am not sure why I had this memory but there was a boy in university that I had the biggest crush on. Ivan Baroya (yes, I am writing his name in the hopes that he reads what a &^%$$^&(*& he was).<\/p>\n
It was my first year or so at school, in a multicultural environment. There were students from all over the world. This was new to me, coming from Ohio… I enjoyed seeing cute boys, even Indian ones, that weren’t related to me.<\/p>\n
Yes, Sanj was one of them, but he was too busy being stuck up, at this point!<\/p>\n
Ivan Baroya caught me eye. He was so cute. We all kind of ran with a similar group of friends so I was around him, much to my delight.<\/p>\n
In truth, I expected nothing from him. If he did actually come and talk to me, I would have probably died. I just liked looking at him. It would have been nice if he would have been nice… even a simple ‘Hi’ would have sent me to cloud 9.<\/p>\n
He was a bit older and realized that I had a crush. Well he would go out of his way to hurt me. The meanest thing he did was we were all at a party or something together. I was kinda excited to just be in the same room with him. He goes and sits on this mutual friend’s lap and starts to kiss her.<\/p>\n
Weird. I was devastated. Hurt and rejected. I also felt stupid because I found out later (by the girl) that he did this just for my benefit and most people were aware of his game.<\/p>\n
Since most of my feelings are on my face… it wasn’t hard for him to see the reaction he was waiting for.<\/p>\n
I got over him rather quickly but never forgot that meaness. What was the point of it? To set himself higher than me? How can that possible make you feel good?<\/p>\n
Well, obviously I have not forgotten his meaness. I hope that for his sake he has grown up. And I live with the promise of what goes around comes around. God takes care of vengence.<\/p>\n
I am so glad that he did not give me the time of day! <\/p>\n
This is something I am teaching my boys. You do not have to return feelings that someone else may have but you certainly must be respectful and kind. When someone has a crush or whatever on you, it is a compliment. You must never stomp on ones feelings.<\/p>\n
Of course there are exceptions to ever rule… and that is when they need to pass the girl’s name on to their mom… <\/p>\n
I will take care of business!!! Don’t mess with my boys!<\/p>\n
Meanness. It is so unnecessary. A gracious heart is one that is going to be respected.<\/p>\n
And as far as Ivan Baroya… I wish him the plague of clutter flies and mosquitoes!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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