{"id":1953,"date":"2011-06-07T10:49:20","date_gmt":"2011-06-07T14:49:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/livinglovingbreathingboys.com\/?p=1953"},"modified":"2011-06-07T11:03:21","modified_gmt":"2011-06-07T15:03:21","slug":"male-bonding","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/livinglovingbreathingboys.com\/?p=1953","title":{"rendered":"Male Bonding…"},"content":{"rendered":"

I am wondering at the extreme opposite it seems that we are as men and women. \u00a0I am not sure if this is a gender thing or a personality thing.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Does the man in your life (or DO YOU… if you are a male reading this) have a best friend \u00a0that is a male? \u00a0I mean a real friend… that they can bare their hearts to?<\/p>\n

Why is it that this is such a rare thing? \u00a0I do know some men that do have that best buddy, so it isn’t impossible. \u00a0Yet it seems that when men get together there is such superficialness in their friendships. \u00a0How come? \u00a0How long can you talk about the Stanley Cup playoff or what ever issue is in the news, or their vehicles, or their kids or golf or any other topic that doesn’t bare their soul?<\/p>\n

Or do men not have that need to be more than superficial?<\/p>\n

I remember my girlfriend saying that her husband finds this so hard, as he is not into the usual male bonding stuff of sports etc. \u00a0She was saying how he wishes that he could have what we, as girlfriends have… a real relationship that goes beyond the shallow stuff.<\/p>\n

Do women have this? \u00a0I have this with a few people… I hate the superficial stuff. \u00a0I want to know you… I want to know what’s in you and want to have that trust and friendship that allows for this true real relationship.<\/p>\n

There have been so many times when we have gone out with a bunch of couples that one of the men wanders over to where the ladies are chattering simply because our conversation is much more titillating.<\/p>\n

I notice that so many men need to have that beer, it seems, to go with their guys night out. \u00a0It seems that there is always that awkward few minutes of companionship, till a drink works it’s magic and then it seems that the men just can be… they are total different beings.<\/p>\n

Why is that?<\/p>\n

It seems that men need to be doing something.. golfing and hanging or shooting pool and hanging … they seems to need to do something.<\/p>\n

I apologize for clumping all men in this catorgory… I realize that isn’t true.<\/p>\n

Yet… it still remains that there are so many that do not have a buddy they can just hang with.<\/p>\n

I so often see women hanging out and clicking with each other and then looking at their men… and then \u00a0we do what we do… “We should really get the guys out… they seem to be having a good time…”<\/em><\/p>\n

Do we not?<\/p>\n

Maybe our men are happy as they are… maybe they don’t need that bonding thing. \u00a0Maybe they are happy living life as what we would see as maybe lonely.<\/p>\n

Who knows.<\/p>\n

If you do, I’d love to know…<\/p>\n

Men are forever saying it is so much easier to be friends with women. \u00a0And yet, once married, is it appropriate? Do we want our husband having a best buddy that is female besides us? \u00a0 Probably not.<\/p>\n

As I raise a houseful of boys to men… I wonder about this. \u00a0How does it work? \u00a0How can I raise my boys to be healthy men with strong friendships? \u00a0Is it important for males? \u00a0I do hope, as I have said many a time before, that my boys become friends… real friends as they grow up. \u00a0I hope that they have a special bond with one of their siblings.<\/p>\n

My boys make fun of the number of times my brother may call me in a week… and yet I hope that they see that specialness there. \u00a0I really think it sucks when brothers, who love each other, make no effort to be more than blood relations. \u00a0\ud83d\ude41<\/p>\n

So… Is this a gender thing? \u00a0Or a personality thing? \u00a0Can you explain it to me? Or men just happy being as they are …or do they yearn for that friendship with a fellow buddy?<\/p>\n

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