{"id":475,"date":"2009-01-14T17:09:00","date_gmt":"2009-01-14T22:09:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/livinglovingbreathingboys.com\/?p=475"},"modified":"2009-01-14T17:09:00","modified_gmt":"2009-01-14T22:09:00","slug":"if-you-are-happy-and-you-know-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/livinglovingbreathingboys.com\/?p=475","title":{"rendered":"If you are happy and you know it…"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Is ones attitude a personality thing? Do some people just have a “woe is me” personality?<\/p>\n

I am beginning to think so. Sanj and I are very much opposites, as I have said many times. I am a glass half full most of the time and he would wonder why his glass was half empty. Yet it works for both of us in our own way.<\/p>\n

Sanj’s attitude towards life pushes him to constantly seek out the things in life that he wants for himself and his family. He works like a dog, plays like a boy and loves with all his heart. Yet he has a very small select few people he likes and an even smaller few that he loves.<\/p>\n

Part of this is he is constantly seeking the definition of love. “How do you know you love your dad?” is a question he asks.<\/p>\n

Well, I am a person who simply loves. The definition is not as important as what I feel in my heart… in the deepest place… it is just a given. I know if I love you. I don’t have to know you for years. I just have to know that in my heart you feed me or maybe I need to feed you. That is good enough for me.<\/p>\n

I usually love until I am hurt, then I will question the relationship. And yet as with my dad… I am and have been hurt yet that love is there. It is just there… as I breathe.<\/p>\n

“Love makes the world go round.” If there isn’t love, what do you really have? Money? What good is money when you have no one to share it with? (well I suppose it can be a good companion if you have to be alone)! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

It is the one thing that people yearn for. Even if they find it in an animal … their pet… it is something.<\/p>\n

So it does disturb me that Sanj is so analytical about things. He says “HE KNOWS” he loves me. Yet how does he really know?<\/p>\n

Back to the orignal question… personality. I would say you are born with the disposition you have.<\/p>\n

Each of my boys have such different personalities. You have read that Zachary is my child with a sunny happy life is great attitude.<\/p>\n

Then take Jordan… despite whatever the circumstance… he is more “life is hard… woe is me.” He reminds me of my mother-in-law and her out look on life. I suppose he is alot like Sanj. And since he does not have a different life than his brothers in reality… it must be his personality to be like an Eeyore.<\/p>\n

Good or bad? I guess there isn’t a real answer. Sanj was saying to me that “when I met you (in university) you were happy. You really didn’t have a lot to be happy about up until then.” <\/p>\n

And yet to me, it is perception… I felt I had a lot to be happy about. I was free. I was blossoming and learn to spread my wings. I was exhaling! I had survived.<\/p>\n

So can everyone be happy? Is it a choice? Or is it just part of your mechanics that some people will spend their life with dissatisfaction being part of their equation?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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