{"id":718,"date":"2009-09-26T16:39:00","date_gmt":"2009-09-26T20:39:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/livinglovingbreathingboys.com\/?p=718"},"modified":"2009-09-26T16:39:00","modified_gmt":"2009-09-26T20:39:00","slug":"slapping-the-other-cheek-oops-i-mean","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/livinglovingbreathingboys.com\/?p=718","title":{"rendered":"Slapping the Other Cheek&#8230; Oops, I mean&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a onblur=\"try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}\" href=\"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_ESvCH9ghcAI\/Sr6OOv0hfaI\/AAAAAAAACZg\/rnm8L7b1UMw\/s1600-h\/images.jpeg\"><img decoding=\"async\" style=\"float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 118px; height: 98px;\" src=\"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_ESvCH9ghcAI\/Sr6OOv0hfaI\/AAAAAAAACZg\/rnm8L7b1UMw\/s320\/images.jpeg\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5385898588387769762\" \/><\/a><br \/>The older boys had friends over for most of the day.  The younger ones were happy to just be with everyone.  <\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>It is cool and rainy&#8230; it&#8217;s time to figure out supper.  Yuck.  I am feeling kind of on the verge of getting something.  I want to say it is allergies but I feel chilled and kinda achy.   I got a couple of movies&#8230; Sanj has hockey tonight, the younger ones will be off to bed early, the older ones are watching a movie.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Sanj has been building his master piece all day.  It is 5:45 and he is off with the younger ones to catch some fish since they didn&#8217;t have a friend over.  What a good dad!  Let&#8217;s hope he doesn&#8217;t bring fish for supper.  I am not in the mood for it.  It feels like a soup night.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>I am almost finished the Book Of Negroes.  It has been very disturbing to me.  I never understand meanness in people.  I don&#8217;t get it.  How could humans  treat each other like that and be OK with it?  How is that even humane?  Think of the holocaust? I sometimes think that there is a good thing there is a hell.  <\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>I see meanness in little girls and boys.  How do they think like that?  What makes them want to be exclusive &#8230; leave out others knowing full well it will hurt someone?  <\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>I think of people that are mean and I think that it boils down to insecurity.  Insecurity is such a nasty thing.  It is a horrible thing to need to prop yourself up at someone else&#8217;s expense.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>I have been the &#8220;victim&#8221; of meanness.  It is a result of insecurity and feeling threatened.  I have her talking behind my back.  She puts me down.  She demeans my attempts at being helpful.<\/div>\n<div>She is so threatened and yet so fake.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Lord have  mercy.  I really don&#8217;t have time for games or her issues.  And really they are <i>her <\/i>issues.  I am there to accomplish a task and do my best.  I can&#8217;t be bothered by the pettiness of others.  Yet I am.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Meanness.  I hate watching it play out in front of me.  I hate seeing kids act ugly to another. <\/div>\n<div>I wonder why girls\/women are meaner than men?  Are we?  I have seen my boys go at it, beat each other up and then they are over it, playing together the next minute.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>How come we aren&#8217;t like that?  I don&#8217;t think all women are like that.  But we do protect our own.  Those claws can come out.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>So, as I finish the Book of Negroes and reflect on the history of slavery and intolerance&#8230; I remind myself to focus on all the blessings.  Let go of the pettiness.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>I am going to turn the other cheek as long as I can&#8230; but I would so love to just slap that meanness out of her!  Oops those were my inside thoughts coming out!<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The older boys had friends over for most of the day. The younger ones were happy to just be with everyone. It is cool and rainy&#8230; it&#8217;s time to figure out supper. Yuck. 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