I have a friend whose husband died of ITP, idiopathic thrombocytopenic purpura (ITP) which is the condition of having a low platelet count. He left behind 2 little girls and an amazing wife. This Sunday was Father’s Day… it was a very sad time for them as they remembered and missed their dad. This is a whole blog in itself… but we were chatting about all the fake or made up holidays that card companies come up with that become “real” holidays.
I am not sure how many of you have wonderful relationships with your parents… if you are one of those, you are blessed and a minority, I am guessing. When I look for cards that are for parents, it is hard to find one that is accurate of my relationship. They are too gushy or flowery or the words are just not true.
I find these holidays, especially Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, leave many people sad or with pressure of ridiculous expectations. Their parents have passed on or worse yet their parents where NONE of those things that are described in card stores.
Then there is Valentine’s Day. I hate Valentines Day. I hate it because it reminds me of the many years this fake holiday would make me realize that I had NO ONE. No boyfriend that thought I was special. No one to love me. It is a stupid day. It teaches the wrong message and does nothing except make you feel less than.
Maybe this is only me. But know that I am married and secure in my husband’s love…I do not need a special day for him to tell me he loves me and vise versa. It should be something we do everyday. Now I am not going to lie and say that I don’t appreciate the gift he gets me just because of Valentines or the pressure of Valentines… I love them.
The point just becomes how crazy that card companies benefit from these made up days. How crazy that there are so many people that will feel lonely on these days?
I wish we could permanently boycott these silly days. I have only named three… but of course there are many more. It is amazing what society is bombarded with subtly without thought.