I am approaching the 40s with appreciation that I have made it through some rough times and in anticipation to the next 40 years. As I have been packing and purging, I have come across some stuff from yesteryear. Stuff that takes me back to being in my 20s. It is so weird to look and read things from that age. I felt so grown and yet not grown enough at times.
I think that ones 20s are a great age. There is so much out there waiting for you. I loved the anticipation of all the possibilities. I loved the independence and freedom. Life was very dramatic.
But if I could go back the one thing I would try to do is live in the moment. I have always wanted to be married and be mom. Maybe not very high aspirations to some, but I just wanted a happy home. I wish I had known it is going to be OK… just do the stuff I wanted to do. Don’t wait to be happy.
I am in control of my happiness. I wish I REALLY understood that then! Of course family and all those factors are always there, affecting and influencing… but in my 40s that is true too. Family is a life factor. You just learn all about boundaries and learn to set them and live with what makes you comfortable and happy.
I was 25 when I married Sanj. Really that is just a babe. I can’t not fathom my boys being married at 25!!! (Of course I realize that is a possibility but hopefully not a probability.) I will encourage them to live, travel and BE young. Life is too short to start being old too soon.
Don’t wait to be happy. I wish someone told me that. I wish someone told me “It is going to be OK.” Because despite what life hands you, You will find a way to deal with the cards you are given. It is never perfect. It can always be better. But who cares… I want to learn to be happy in the now.