We had people over on the weekend. It made me rethink that whole “do you love your kids equally?” The one child is a rambunctious highly energized child. He is fully of questions and is high maintenance. The other is the princess of the family. She apparently can do NO wrong.
The whininess and baby behavior that comes from her is apparently cute. I was a little taken back by the obvious favoritism of the one child over the other.
I am pretty aware that my children aren’t saints. They are good kids yet have the ability to drive me and each other bonkers hourly. I also know that they are human… and come with flaws, as we all do.
I think it is a great assets to know your child’s less than perfect characteristics, thus you can help guide them in that area as needed.
Having blinders on does no one any good. You are not doing your child justice that they are perfect… because in the real world… the child will not be cute to everyone.
The mom said…” she is having trouble having friends…and I don’t know why. She is so sweet and cute. Who wouldn’t want to be her friend?” Um… reality check… many people. Each of us have such different personaliities that jive with different kinds of people.
SO I felt sorry for both children. The child that just can’t help who he is… and the child that needs to be taught that you may be a princess in YOUR family… but in the real world the your tiara is not acknowledged by others. In the real world, you are really just another contender… wanting the tiara.
Perfection is in the eye of the beholder… I think it is why God created parents… for children (if you are lucky) to have your own cheering squad. It is great that parents see the best their child can be… and nurture them along to achieve those goals we “know” they can reach.
I feel sorry for the parents that truly do have blinders on. A child that talks back with rudeness… is one day going to be a teenager with a greater attitude. If not taught now as a babe… when they are endearing princes and princesses…. they will not be ready to listen as young people with their own thoughts and opinions.
I guess I am surprised at the number of parents that do see their child for all they are. Rather, they find it easier to see their children with blinders on. Whose fault is it… when the child is poorly raised?