The last couple of days have been an eye opener for me into the world of boys.
As girls have entered our lives…. it has been so interesting to me to watch and listen.
I so badly want to write the whole conversation but am restraining myself. It was so funny to hear the boys talk about girls. They are realizing just how different girls are from boys. I am too!
The younger ones have become pests and funny coming home with tales of the boys talking to girls.
Some of these girls are going through the younger ones to get to the older ones. Jordan came home totally upset with his brothers teasing and called Max the paparazzi!
Then there are moments where they just beat each other up. Then they are laughing. Soon enough, it is then over and they are off to play a video game.
Us… girls… we want to talk. We want to know what they are feeling. I am realizing that maybe they are just thinking of nothing and feeling nothing. Maybe that is possible. I am actually coming to the realization that boys/men are totally different. We really must drain them. I exhaust myself with all the emotions and feelings I go through in one day… Sanj is so good about listening to all my thoughts. He seems to know how much a comment is acceptable and when I need more.
When I do ask him what he is thinking, when he is staring off in space, if his answer is more than nothing, it is usually boring. No emotions or feelings that are exciting or inspiring.
Today as we were getting ready, he looked pensive, so I asked, “what are you thinking?”
He said, “about not going to the gym today.”
Today, I had so many thoughts. I was thinking of life as we get older. I was contemplating Sanj and I as a couple when the children were all gone. I was thinking of couples that break up after the kids were gone. I was thinking of men that cheat on their wife after all that time. I was thinking of those couples I see so often that are at a restuarant, just sitting. There is no chatting and no engaging of one another.
Ick! I would be so sad.
What happened? Yes, I know, each couple has their own story. Yet, I think the key is keeping your friendship alive. If you are friends with your spouse… then you will want to be with them. You will miss them. I look forward to hanging out with Sanj. Mind you, not every minute of the day… as we are very different.
I see retirement like this (especially if I win the lotto). I am sure we will still live here. Maybe on the lake… kids and grandkids will come and visit and all that good stuff. I think that we will travel a fair bit. I want to see the world. Then if we wintered in warmth a few months a year… then I see us hanging out in the morning. Sanj will have been up at 5 still, done whatever he does. I will have enjoyed sleeping in. We hook up to be served breakfast by the manservant. We then relax a bit. After lunch, he will go off and golf. I will write, shop and do a book signing here and there. We will then go out on the boat and have dinner somewhere into the sunset.
We then have time with each other and yet time to enjoy our hobbies and friends.
I still think Sanj will call me a million times a day just to say hi and see what I am up too.
He will miss me when he is away from me. I will think of him and buy him little things that make him smile. Of course there will be all that shopping for the grandkids too.
Ah… life is good. Thank you, God, for making men from Mars and women from Venus.