Have you seen the movie “Mean Girls?” Do you ever wonder what makes a person choose to be mean spirited?
Usually there is an underlining reasons that may be obvious but sometimes I believe it is simply the choice to be hurtful.
I am not sure why I had this memory but there was a boy in university that I had the biggest crush on. Ivan Baroya (yes, I am writing his name in the hopes that he reads what a &^%$$^&(*& he was).
It was my first year or so at school, in a multicultural environment. There were students from all over the world. This was new to me, coming from Ohio… I enjoyed seeing cute boys, even Indian ones, that weren’t related to me.
Yes, Sanj was one of them, but he was too busy being stuck up, at this point!
Ivan Baroya caught me eye. He was so cute. We all kind of ran with a similar group of friends so I was around him, much to my delight.
In truth, I expected nothing from him. If he did actually come and talk to me, I would have probably died. I just liked looking at him. It would have been nice if he would have been nice… even a simple ‘Hi’ would have sent me to cloud 9.
He was a bit older and realized that I had a crush. Well he would go out of his way to hurt me. The meanest thing he did was we were all at a party or something together. I was kinda excited to just be in the same room with him. He goes and sits on this mutual friend’s lap and starts to kiss her.
Weird. I was devastated. Hurt and rejected. I also felt stupid because I found out later (by the girl) that he did this just for my benefit and most people were aware of his game.
Since most of my feelings are on my face… it wasn’t hard for him to see the reaction he was waiting for.
I got over him rather quickly but never forgot that meaness. What was the point of it? To set himself higher than me? How can that possible make you feel good?
Well, obviously I have not forgotten his meaness. I hope that for his sake he has grown up. And I live with the promise of what goes around comes around. God takes care of vengence.
I am so glad that he did not give me the time of day!
This is something I am teaching my boys. You do not have to return feelings that someone else may have but you certainly must be respectful and kind. When someone has a crush or whatever on you, it is a compliment. You must never stomp on ones feelings.
Of course there are exceptions to ever rule… and that is when they need to pass the girl’s name on to their mom…
I will take care of business!!! Don’t mess with my boys!
Meanness. It is so unnecessary. A gracious heart is one that is going to be respected.
And as far as Ivan Baroya… I wish him the plague of clutter flies and mosquitoes!