I always have something to say… but I think I have stumbled and a true case of writer’s block! Scary! What if all my thoughts keep running away? 🙁
On the flip side, I just have to hang out with my husband a few minutes and he usually gives me plenty of material to write about. In fear for my marriage, I have to pick and choose what is acceptable to complain write about!
One of the most annoying things about Sanj is his know it all attitude. He does not know it all. Yet, if he has an opinion, it is right. Well, so he thinks. I have very rarely seen him sway from a belief. Do you know how annoying that is?
Even as he was reading this (for his approval of sorts) he suggested that instead of saying “when he has an opinion, he is right.” that I should write “when he has an opinion, he is compelled by it…” See… he has something to say about EVERYTHING, even what I write about!
Today, as I was complaining about my writer’s block, he said, “I have a topic you can write on.” He proceeded to suggest that I write about How well does one really know their parent?
He was saying that we really don’t know our parents as people, only as parents. I disagree. I think that I know my mom as a person and as a parent. I have spent a lifetime watching her as a person, interacting with people, knowing by her behaviour that she feels safe with a person or not. I know her when she is in the role of a nurse. I know her when she is tired, irritated, stressed and sad. I know when she is happy and excited. I know when she is angry or dislikes someone.
I know my mom. Of course there are qualities that pop up that often surprise me but then again, as human being we change. So when a new trait pops up, I can add it to my definition of her.
Sanj has a very different relationship with his parents. He left home at the young age of 16 years old and went to a boarding school. He then went away during the summers to work at camp and then was off to university. He never really lived at home full time since being 16 years old.
You never really know your parents? Hum… I disagree. Do you have an opinion? (Please take my side)! lol
I agree with you Reema, although there are things about my mom I don't know, there are a lot I do.
I admire my mom, she is an example of determination and fortitude. Her parents made her drop out of school in the 7th grade so they could have a free babysitter. She was the oldest of 8. A few years ago she went back to school and finished with her high school diploma at 68! She didn't want just a GED, she was determined to finish what she was forced out of so many years ago.
That is an example I would like to emulate.
I have become friends with her, and although we live in different states, we speak on the phone almost daily.
I think the key is, if we want to know our adult children, or our parents when we become adults, and put forth the effort, we will find a treasure.
I'm not sure I exactly responded in a way you were asking, but I do agree with you. We can know our parents and develop a relationship beyond that of parent/child.
Oh yea, one more thing… Sanj sounds like a typical man…